How do you mourn with those who have experienced trauma? Everyone has stories of people who try to help the bereaved but end up saying the wrong thing. And because we fear ‘doing it wrong’, we often back away from those in mourning rather than move towards them in love. And especially for our generation, in our airbrushed culture, we have no idea how to deal with real pain and suffering.
In a blog post last month, Catherine Woodiwess shared her experiences of how to love and go on living in the midst of real trauma.
I knew that pain was a part of life, but — thanks in part to a peculiar blend of “God-has-a-plan” Southern roots, a suburban “Midwestern nice” upbringing, and a higher education in New England stoicism — I managed to skate by for quite some time without having to experience it.
After a handful of traumas in the last five years, things look different now. Trauma upends everything we took for granted, including things we didn’t know we took for granted. And many of these realities I wish I’d known when I first encountered them."